Mind is the root cause of all the suffering. Suffering is mental, pain is physical. How our minds perceive each and every incident, on the basis of that our body reacts. Stress comes from suffering than pain. In everyday life pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional - a by-product of poor choice. We want to change the other person. Things don’t change; you change your way of understanding. As you change your perception everything changes for you. You subconsciously train other people how you want to be treated through your actions, tone of voice and behaviour. You create your own image.
We feed our body regularly to sustain the daily challenges and we need to feed our mind to face the new challenges. In the corporate world as if the language is invented to deceive someone; you can cheat the whole world but you cannot cheat yourself, your conscience. According to Buddha’s discovery the body reacts on the basis of your inner conscience. Whenever we do something against our inner conscience to gain something in physical level or emotional level, we start forming knots (deformities) in our body which we are not able to recognize as our mind is always diverted outward. As our mind is diverted outward we have lost the ability to sense the reaction happening each and every moment. We only recognize that when it comes out in the form of disease or pain. This kind of disorders are called psychosomatic health disorders, “psyche’ means mind(emotions) and ‘soma’ means body, The research shows that currently 90% of the patients admitted in corporate hospitals are suffering from psychosomatic health disorders.
There are positive emotions and negative emotions. Negative emotions destroy us and we develop psychosomatic health disorders: anger, frustration, revenge, jealousy, unease and anxiety are some of the negative emotions. All the negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Anger comes by birth, it’s an instinct. Most of the people exploit them for their own benefit, specially film makers and politicians but in the long run anger eats them. As you pass on the same values to your children, children imbibe the same qualities. One day they apply the same anger on you if anything goes against their interest.
There can be several methods to clean your mind. I have experienced two methods extremely helpful to clean our mind: Forgiveness & Gratitude Writing.
Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to do in life. It can also be one of the most liberating as our energy returns to us and the person we are forgiving no longer holds power over us. Forgiveness & Gratitude come under supreme core values. If you can practise forgiveness you become supreme selfish. You don’t allow anyone to disturb your peace and happiness, and you don’t give any opportunity to develop psychosomatic health disorders in you. So on the space provided at the end, please write down the people you need to forgive (one of them may even be you) and the reasons you need to forgive them.”
Mistakes happen with every one of us but if I carry that person in my mind I get affected and can’t focus on the task to be carried out. One of the main reasons why we are not able to live in the present moment and not able to enjoy the present is that we are not able to forgive ourselves and others. Mistake may happen with me also. Therefore I need to forgive myself also. If I can’t forgive other, and myself, my mind gets preoccupied with those people who have hurt me. I will get stressed.
If you are living in a society, mistake may happen with your spouse, parents, children, friends and neighbours. If you can’t forgive them, then every time you see them, read their name, hear their name or any thought comes in your mind about them, you get disturbed and not able to focus on the task to be carried out at that moment. You are harming yourself. The control switch of your happiness is outside, not within you. Same way, your office is your main family in your professional life as you spend most of your awakening time at workplace. Mistake may happen with your superiors, colleagues, subordinates and customers. If you can’t forgive them, you get disturbed and not able to focus on the task to be carried out and it will affect your performance.
The people who hurt you are ignorant of your good intention about them; they lose a good person like you. You may feel pity on them. No one does mistake consciously. Either they are ignorant or their ego makes them to commit mistakes. If you can practise forgiveness you will be free of tension, your mind will be clean, and you will lead a happy life. Practising forgiveness shows that you give importance to yourself. Forgiveness does not mean that you will have to go and embrace the person or tell him that you have forgiven him. You need to do it in your mind and you can write in a piece of paper and throw it.
Below are examples on how to write forgiveness:
I,...my name…forgive myself for all the mistake I did because I was ignorant and unconscious of the consequence of my actions.
I forgive …(Name of the person)..for all the wrong/ misdeed done to me because he was ignorant. He did not know what mistakes he was doing.
This exercise to be carried out if anyone has hurt you
Gratitude Writing:
The other exercise to be carried out regularly is gratitude writing. We struggle hard to get a good job, but after few years we forget about that. Instead of expressing our gratitude towards our employer, we start abusing our employer. The nature has got a way to give us what we desire but the nature has also got a way to take away from our life if we don’t show gratitude for what we have got. The research shows the people who write their gratitude journal are happier, positive, and enthusiastic and live in the present rather than in the past or future. They have better sleep and relationship with everyone. They perform very well in life. Express your gratitude to those people who behaved nicely with you and helped you in any form to make your life for betterment. It will help you to remind good experiences and remain you in positive mental state.
“The Success Action that I’d like you to do is to maintain a Gratitude Journal. The idea is to write 5 things that we have in life. It helps us to get more of the things that we want, and it gives us a different attitude.”
Gratitude writing example:
I am grateful to Mr.XYZ for sharing knowledge with me.
I am thankful to Mr.YXZ for closing the deal today.
I am grateful to Mr.XYZ for helping me to reach in time.
I am grateful to bus driver for safe driving.
I am grateful to the film director for making such a good movie (If you have watched a movie and felt good)
Meditation or breathing exercise is another exercise that must be included to clean your mind.
If you can practise the above wisdoms you will be a happy and successful professional.
We feed our body regularly to sustain the daily challenges and we need to feed our mind to face the new challenges. In the corporate world as if the language is invented to deceive someone; you can cheat the whole world but you cannot cheat yourself, your conscience. According to Buddha’s discovery the body reacts on the basis of your inner conscience. Whenever we do something against our inner conscience to gain something in physical level or emotional level, we start forming knots (deformities) in our body which we are not able to recognize as our mind is always diverted outward. As our mind is diverted outward we have lost the ability to sense the reaction happening each and every moment. We only recognize that when it comes out in the form of disease or pain. This kind of disorders are called psychosomatic health disorders, “psyche’ means mind(emotions) and ‘soma’ means body, The research shows that currently 90% of the patients admitted in corporate hospitals are suffering from psychosomatic health disorders.
There are positive emotions and negative emotions. Negative emotions destroy us and we develop psychosomatic health disorders: anger, frustration, revenge, jealousy, unease and anxiety are some of the negative emotions. All the negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Anger comes by birth, it’s an instinct. Most of the people exploit them for their own benefit, specially film makers and politicians but in the long run anger eats them. As you pass on the same values to your children, children imbibe the same qualities. One day they apply the same anger on you if anything goes against their interest.
There can be several methods to clean your mind. I have experienced two methods extremely helpful to clean our mind: Forgiveness & Gratitude Writing.
Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to do in life. It can also be one of the most liberating as our energy returns to us and the person we are forgiving no longer holds power over us. Forgiveness & Gratitude come under supreme core values. If you can practise forgiveness you become supreme selfish. You don’t allow anyone to disturb your peace and happiness, and you don’t give any opportunity to develop psychosomatic health disorders in you. So on the space provided at the end, please write down the people you need to forgive (one of them may even be you) and the reasons you need to forgive them.”
Mistakes happen with every one of us but if I carry that person in my mind I get affected and can’t focus on the task to be carried out. One of the main reasons why we are not able to live in the present moment and not able to enjoy the present is that we are not able to forgive ourselves and others. Mistake may happen with me also. Therefore I need to forgive myself also. If I can’t forgive other, and myself, my mind gets preoccupied with those people who have hurt me. I will get stressed.
If you are living in a society, mistake may happen with your spouse, parents, children, friends and neighbours. If you can’t forgive them, then every time you see them, read their name, hear their name or any thought comes in your mind about them, you get disturbed and not able to focus on the task to be carried out at that moment. You are harming yourself. The control switch of your happiness is outside, not within you. Same way, your office is your main family in your professional life as you spend most of your awakening time at workplace. Mistake may happen with your superiors, colleagues, subordinates and customers. If you can’t forgive them, you get disturbed and not able to focus on the task to be carried out and it will affect your performance.
The people who hurt you are ignorant of your good intention about them; they lose a good person like you. You may feel pity on them. No one does mistake consciously. Either they are ignorant or their ego makes them to commit mistakes. If you can practise forgiveness you will be free of tension, your mind will be clean, and you will lead a happy life. Practising forgiveness shows that you give importance to yourself. Forgiveness does not mean that you will have to go and embrace the person or tell him that you have forgiven him. You need to do it in your mind and you can write in a piece of paper and throw it.
Below are examples on how to write forgiveness:
I,...my name…forgive myself for all the mistake I did because I was ignorant and unconscious of the consequence of my actions.
I forgive …(Name of the person)..for all the wrong/ misdeed done to me because he was ignorant. He did not know what mistakes he was doing.
This exercise to be carried out if anyone has hurt you
Gratitude Writing:
The other exercise to be carried out regularly is gratitude writing. We struggle hard to get a good job, but after few years we forget about that. Instead of expressing our gratitude towards our employer, we start abusing our employer. The nature has got a way to give us what we desire but the nature has also got a way to take away from our life if we don’t show gratitude for what we have got. The research shows the people who write their gratitude journal are happier, positive, and enthusiastic and live in the present rather than in the past or future. They have better sleep and relationship with everyone. They perform very well in life. Express your gratitude to those people who behaved nicely with you and helped you in any form to make your life for betterment. It will help you to remind good experiences and remain you in positive mental state.
“The Success Action that I’d like you to do is to maintain a Gratitude Journal. The idea is to write 5 things that we have in life. It helps us to get more of the things that we want, and it gives us a different attitude.”
Gratitude writing example:
I am grateful to Mr.XYZ for sharing knowledge with me.
I am thankful to Mr.YXZ for closing the deal today.
I am grateful to Mr.XYZ for helping me to reach in time.
I am grateful to bus driver for safe driving.
I am grateful to the film director for making such a good movie (If you have watched a movie and felt good)
Meditation or breathing exercise is another exercise that must be included to clean your mind.
If you can practise the above wisdoms you will be a happy and successful professional.
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