Leadership through Self-Mastery: Happiness is a state of mind

Happiness is a state of mind. On the basis of kind of thought we are having our body reacts. Our body is the medium of expression. Happiness is within us but we keep looking outside for happiness i.e., outside our body. Let’s understand that our body and mind are two different entities, but most of us are unaware of that and we start to identify ourselves with our mind. We are living an unconscious life. I am not going to give you anything new in this program. I will make you aware of what you have got within yourself. The Life Management Academy caption says,” Rediscover yourself through awareness”. We didn’t say invent or discover or rather rediscover which is within you. Fire of knowledge i.e. awareness can take away your suffering.
Anyone or everyone can be happy and live in peace, if he or she is living in a conscious state of living. But most of us are living in an unconscious state of living identified with our mind i.e. ego. Our mind continuously produces thoughts what we call ‘compulsive thinking’. It’s very difficult to stop our thought process but we can change our thought process through some mental exercise daily.
I will discuss about those exercises and you will be on the path of your happiness, if you practice them regularly. That’s the assurance from my side.

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The only person you can have total control is yourself.

The only person you can have total control is yourself.
If we can’t manage our time and organise ourselves, most of us will blame external factors and others. If a person is not able to reach office in time he may blame- public transport, traffic jam or wife for not preparing meal in time. The list goes on: ‘I wish I had my own transport, I wish my office would have been near by, I wish my office timing would have been delayed by an hour”.
If I could not complete my assignment in time, “I wish I was given some more time, I wish my subordinates were well trained, so and so...” I look for all solutions outside. What am I doing? I am trying to control others or external environment. How many people can I control or can I control external activities? The only person you can have total control is yourself. The concept is shown in illustration below.
The dot in the centre is you and there is a small circle of people around you where you have some influence or some control, i.e. if you tell them to do something for you, they will do for you (if possible by them). But they will not do anything and everything for you. For example, if you are not feeling well and ask your mother to prepare a special meal for you; she will prepare for you. If you ask for help from your superiors to complete an assignment, they will help you as much as possible by them. The areas of influence consist of your family members, friends, subordinates and superiors; where you do have some control on them but not total control. The only person you can have total control is you. But do you have total control on yourself or others control you? Think about it.

The outer circle around ‘area of control’ is the ‘area of concern’. The area of concern is the whole world other than you and your area of influence (area of control). Anything happens in this world affects our life directly or indirectly i.e. it bothers us. But we don’t have any control on those areas. Let’s take an example. Suppose there is match between India & Pakistan, and India wins the match. How do you feel? We feel happy. And if India loses the match, how do you feel? Sad & depressed! Can you do anything about it? But we keep on gossiping and commenting on the match even though the match is over long time ago.
In this world every one of us has got 24 hours. If you are spending more time on the area of concern, where you don’t have any control or influence, then you are spending less time on yourself and on the area of influence. If you are not spending time for your growth, you will be left behind. You can keep on improving your intellectual (IQ), emotional knowledge (EQ) and Spiritual Knowledge (SQ) to grow throughout your life. If you are sound financially, mentally, emotionally and spiritually then only you can take care of others. The more time you spend on yourself for your growth, your area of influence will increase as you will be able to contribute to more people. The more time you spend on your ‘area of concern’, your area of influence decreases. For example, our former president Dr.Abdul Kalam has spent more time on his growth to improve his intellectual. Therefore now he has got influence on more number of people.
To be successful in your life you must prioritise your time in the following manner:
1. Spend time for your self growth
2. Spend time for your near & dear ones
3. Then you if have got any time left spend for society.

If you want to help the society, you must be independent. Only independent people can be interdependent.

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Emotional Bonding in our life

Emotion plays a vital role in our life. We do what ever we feel good or right. Feelings follow action. We do what ever we can do for our children, parents, spouse and friends as we are emotionally attached to them. If we can create a better emotional bond among employees and with the employer, the efficiency at workplace will improve and that will lead to increase in quality & productivity. It will reduce the attrition rate. The future of any organisation depends on the capabilities and productivities of its workforce. Most of us understand that these prerequisites are must for prosperous organisational futures. The maxim that ‘the people are our most assets’ is not often manifest in action as well as words.

When you work in an organisation you don’t deal with the machines only. If you are dealing with machine like computer, you press the right button you get the right answer. But at work we have to deal with human computers and these human computers have got emotion. If we can deal with the emotions in a better way we can be more successful. Our school and colleges emphasised on intellectual growth, but for the productivity of an organisation we have to work as a team. If we can emotionally support each other our productivity goes up.

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Some of the reasons why a Manager gets stressed are:

The job delegated to the subordinate is not completed in time and the productivity is not up to the expectation. In most cases we blame the subordinates. One of the main reasons for not getting the desired result is the lack of people skill or dealing with the emotions.
If you don’t have good relationship with the people with whom you want to keep, you will not feel good and you may go under mental depressions.
If I don’t have good relationship with my wife, the main reason may be the way I communicate, she does not like. Same reason applies to all other people also, let it be subordinate, boss, children and friends.
People say that they are getting struck due to work pressure. Tell me how the statement is justifiable? Stress is mental. If you work more you will get tired that is physical. But stress is mental. If you are playing a game and if you put 100% of your effort in the game, you will get tired and you get a nice sleep at the end of the day. If you can handle any kind of situation and any person you will start enjoying.
Most of the above concerns are discussed in the previous chapters.
In a nutshell reasons for stress are:
Expectation: Expect least from others, do whatever you can do from your side.
Competing with someone: Compete with yourself.
Not accepting the present moment: Living in the past or future3.
Not able to deal with own emotion and other’s emotion.
Not having enough knowledge of human psychology ( Self & others )
Not able to keep up with timings and commitments6.
Lack of physical exercise: Include physical exercise: Yoga, Jogging, Walking, Skipping
Not showing gratitude to others ( Ego)
9.Not able to forgive self & others
If you can deal with and overcome the above factors you can lead a happy and peaceful life.

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The fear of public speaking can disrupt your career and income

You have great ideas, but they are no good to your organization or your career, if you can’t present them clearly, confidently and persuasively. The fear of public speaking can disrupt your career and income.
Please register and invest time on self to grow in your professional & personal life

The program is in four slot
 Saturday: 10am - 1pm & 5pm - 8pm
 Sunday :   10am - 1pm & 5pm - 8pm

The main reason of the delay in progress of our lives is decision making about ourselves.

We keep posponing our growth, by postponing decision. How often do you justify your failures?

Please learn to take a decision and be in the path of success.

Once you register you confirm yourself the time your would like to spend for your self growth.

Register now at http://www.meraevents.com/event/psld and confirm your success path.

You are the author of your SUCCESS
Video is now on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6r6UD6PEBC0

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Mind Cleaning Exercises

There can be several methods to clean your mind. I have experienced two methods extremely helpful to clean our mind: Forgiveness & Gratitude Writing.

Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to do in life. It can also be one of the most liberating as our energy returns to us and the person we are forgiving no longer holds power over us.

Forgiveness & Gratitude come under supreme core values. If you can practise forgiveness you become supreme selfish. You don’t allow anyone to disturb your peace and happiness, and you don’t give any opportunity to develop psychosomatic illness in you..

Mistakes happen with every one of us but if I carry that person in my mind I get affected and can’t focus on the task to be carried out. One of the main reasons why we are not able to live in the present moment and not able to enjoy the present is that we are not able to forgive ourselves and others. Mistake may happen with me also. Therefore I need to forgive myself also. If I can’t forgive other, and myself, my mind gets preoccupied with those people who have hurt me. I will get stressed.
If you are living in a society, mistake may happen with your spouse, parents, children, friends and neighbours. If you can’t forgive them, then every time you see them, read their name, hear their name or any thought comes in your mind about them, you get disturbed and not able to focus on the task to be carried out at that moment. You are harming yourself. The control switch of your happiness is outside, not within you. Same way, your office is your main family in your professional life as you spend most of your awakening time at workplace. Mistake may happen with your superiors, colleagues, subordinates and customers. If you can’t forgive them, you get disturbed and not able to focus on the task to be carried out and it will affect your performance.
The people who hurt you are ignorant of your good intention about them; they lose a good person like you. You may feel pity on them. No one does mistake consciously. Either they are ignorant or their ego makes them to commit mistakes. If you can practise forgiveness you will be free of tension, your mind will be clean, and you will lead a happy life. Practising forgiveness shows that you give importance to yourself. Forgiveness does not mean that you will have to go and embrace the person or tell him that you have forgiven him. You need to do it in your mind and you can write in a piece of paper and throw it.
Below are examples on how to write forgiveness:
I,...my name…forgive myself for all the mistake I did because I was ignorant and unconscious of the consequence of my actions.
I forgive …(Name of the person)..for all the wrong/ misdeed done to me because he was ignorant. He did not know what mistakes he was doing.
This exercise to be carried out if anyone has hurt you

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Thought is the root cause of all challenges

Happiness is the state of mind. What kind of thought we are having on the basis of which our body reacts. Our body is the medium of expression. The happiness is within us but we keep looking outside for happiness i.e., outside our body. Let’s understand our body and mind are two different entities, but most of us are unaware of that and we start to identify ourselves with our mind. We are living an unconscious life. I am not going to give you anything new in this book. I will make you aware of what you got within yourself. The Life Management Academy caption says,” Rediscover yourself through awareness”. We didn’t say invent or discover or rather rediscover which is within you. Fire of knowledge i.e. awareness can take away your suffering.

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FREE session on Mind Management & Stress Management with Public Practice to be a confident communicator & Leader

I am inviting you to attend 3 hours FREE session on Mind Management & Stress Management with Public Practice to be a confident communicator & Leader on Sunday 9:30am – 12:30pm.

Please come along with your friends and family if possible 

Sessions detail:

1.We communicate and act on the basis of our thoughts, values and belief. Session is going to start with meditation of observe your thoughts
2. Followed by session to realise how thoughts influence our communication 
3. Mind cleaning exercise. You will feel you lost some of your weight and feel light, thats assurance from my side.

Root cause of all problems in this world is mind. Toxic mind is causing turmoil in the family, organisation, society, country, community and in yourself. If you want to conquer the world first you have to conquer yourself. We are seeing the problem outside and searching the solution also outside; therefore spending all the energy and resources to control outside than own self. We are reducing our horizon and creating enemy all around.

Cleaning our body and mind is very important to lead a balanced, happy and successful life. A person’s success is determined by the state of one’s mind. If there is dirt in your room, what you do? You must be cleaning the room and throw away the rubbish. If there is dirt on your body, what you do? You must be going for a shower. But if there is a dirt in your mind, how do you clean?

While you are at the workplace, especially as a sales professional, you may get lots of rejection. Sometime these objections and rejections depress you and stop you to act again with the same positive mental attitude; as our mind reminds us of the bad experiences rather than the good experiences. Therefore you need to clean your mind on a regular basis to remain positive and enthusiastic; so that you can perform at your workplace with greater effectiveness.

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90% of the patients admitted in the corporate hospitals are suffering from psychosomatic illness.

Good Morning!
Precaution is better than.....
90% of the patients admitted in the corporate hospitals are suffering from psychosomatic illness. 
What is psychosomatic illness?
Psycho mean ‘mind’ and 'soma' means ‘body’. The bodily disorder you are facing now came from mind due to suppressed emotions such as anxiety, fear, conflict and tension. Research shows that chronic emotional tension can generate or aggravate symptoms such as headache, arthritis, hypertension and blood pressure. The other disorders are dyspepsia, colitis, ulcers and insomnia. To know more about & free personal confidential session to overcome all psychological problem please call us on 9989675936 or send me a message

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The only person you can have total control is self.

If we can’t manage our time and organise ourselves, most of us will blame external factors and others. If a person is not able to reach office in time he may blame- public transport, traffic jam or wife for not preparing meal in time. The list goes on: ‘I wish I had my own transport, I wish my office would have been near by, I wish my office timing would have been delayed by an hour”.
If I could not complete my assignment in time, “I wish I was given some more time, I wish my subordinates were well trained, so and so...” I look for all solutions outside. What am I doing? I am trying to control others or external environment. How many people can I control or can I control external activities? The only person you can have total control is yourself. The concept is shown in illustration below.

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Dream Believe, ACT- Create and SUCCEED

“The most fundamental definition of personal power is having the capacity to realise one’s purpose. Personal vision is the key to unlocking its power. Vision is a picture of the future that one wants to create. Vision is the vehicle for bringing purpose into the realm of acts and commitments. People who do remarkable things in their lives have a clear vision stemming from a deep and pervasive sense of purpose.”
No task is too formidable when you divide your goals into small, realistic steps and prepare well. First, making the desired change; second, maintaining the change.
Effective people are not necessarily smarter or more talented than their less successful counterparts; they are only more disciplined. Many smart people fall by the wayside because they strive only when they feel motivated. Successful people strive no matter what they feel by applying their will to overcome apathy, doubt or fear. Motivation works in the moment, but you can count on the staying power of your will – persistence, perseverance, and endurance.

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Let’s commit to materialize your financial GOAL.

This month is the beginning of new financial year. Let’s commit to materialize your financial GOAL.
Find a place where you will not be disturbed. Write the amount of money you would like to earn by 31st of May 2014 and the service or merchandise you will exchange to earn the money.
Now please close your eyes and repeat loudly the amount of money you intend to earn by 31st May 2014. Now visualize yourself as if you are in position of the amount you have written.
Repeat this exercise for 15 minutes every day in the evening and morning for next 30 days and you will realize your financial goal, that’s my assurance

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Emotional Intelligence & Stress Management workshop at 40% discount on advance booking.

I hope this mail finds you in good mood & emotion.

This is to inform that we are organizing 2 days experiential workshop on Emotional Intelligence & Stress Management followed by two weeks personal sessions on 29^th & 30th March 2014 (10 am- 5pm). We can’t discuss our personal issues in the group session, therefore we have personal session.

The truth is, “we take decision emotionally and justify them rationally”.  Please watch video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i5cMzOjUQtk and register with Meraevents at http://www.meraevents.com/event/eq

The objective of the workshop is to make the participants aware of the importance and practice of Emotional Intelligence (EQ & Core Values) in leadership. The programme has been designed keeping in mind the needs of the present fast changing corporate scenario.

BENEFITS: The program helps to become better Communicator, Decision maker, Negotiator, Interpersonal Skills, Enhances Confidence and LEADERSHIP SKILLS

-          You will be able to deal with your own emotion and emotion of the people around.

-          The program will help you to eradicate psychosomatic illness such as Headache, arthritis, hypertension & high blood pressure.

-          Due to suppressed emotions such as anxiety, fear, conflict and tension 90% corporate employees are suffering from psychosomatic health disorders. You will overcome worries, tension, stress and all psychological problems. You will save doctors fees and wastage of time

The workshop is limited to 12 participants only. Please register soon at http://www.meraevents.com/event/eq to confirm your participation in the workshop.

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People are so much Emotionally Disturb....

This is another case of emotional  disturbance. Please take our some time for self

Man kills wife for not adding tomatoes to his dish - The Times of India
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wKBNWJk51s

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Workshop on Ultimate Selling Technique Development at 50% discount on Saturday 15thMarch 2014.

Good Morning!

 I hope this mail finds you good health & happiness. This is to remind you our next Workshop on Ultimate Selling Technique Development at 50% discount on Saturday 15^thMarch 2014.

Seats are getting filled. Please nominate yours sales professionals soon to multiply sales figure.

Everyone is bombarded with so much sales proposals in our commercial society that ‘NO’ is a standard response to any sales proposal.

In this workshop you will master the art of converting big ‘NO’ to ‘YES’.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0d8TKH01z8&feature=youtu.be

Benefits from the program:
• You will learn how to convert big ‘NO’ to ‘YES’
• Relationship building techniques
• How to handle objection
• HOW to Manage stress to remain energetic & positive

FEES: Rs. 1500/- per head (Regular price Rs.2999/-, Discounted price Rs. 1500/-)

Discount price is valid at http://www.meraevents.com/event/ssdworkshop

Please register soon as few seats are left and the number of intake limited to 15 participants.

Our next day program is

1-Day Experiential Workshop on Public Speaking & Leadership Skills Development on Sunday 9^th March 2014

You can watch my workshop video at the link

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-IdhB98vjDg&feature=context-cha

Feedback video           at        the link

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-d50cJcixuM&feature=channel&list=UL

Please register soon as the number of intake limited to 15 participants.

If you are planning for any in-house training let me know. Please visit us at http://lifemanagementacademy.com/

Regards                                                            

Dipankar Biswas

Life Coach (Australia), Leadership Coach of CEOs, MDs, Managers and Author.

Ph: 9989675936, www.lifemanagementacademy.com

Land line: 23111319, Mobile : 09989675936 

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